A Note To Those Who Think “Life Sucks”
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago (Dec 22, 2008) in RandomTags: people · Print This Post · Leave a Comment
It’s a phrase which we’ve all heard our friends say and may have said ourselves. The moment something goes awry, the immediate follow up is something along the lines of: “Ugh, I hate my life! Life sucks!” Even after I’ve finished my undergraduate studies, I still hear college students stating the aforementioned as if it’s some routine expression inherent to civil conversation. Well come hither, oh-life-hating-individual… I’ve got some words for you.
You just failed an exam. Your boyfriend/girlfriend just broke up with you. A member of your family passed away. There are an infinite number of scenarios which would make someone “hate life”, and while some are considered to be more emotionally draining than others, the end result is the same – you can’t change the past. Stop complaining about how hard life is, get over the hard ship, and move on. And this brings to mind another thing. I’m not one to judge without a reason, but when people broadcast that their life is less-than-perfect to the rest of the world… are they trying to gain sympathy or something? That’s an awfully pitiful way of doing it. If you cope with hardships by seeking comfort from others, TELL THEM what’s wrong. Stop trying to be a mysterious, depressed person just so you see how many people have the decency to go out of their way to inquire about your problem.
I’m strongly against the death penalty and suicide as means for ending life. Regardless of our religious upbringings, I think many will agree with me when I say that living is the hard part. Dying is far easier. Similarly, those who claim that “life sucks” are just looking for an easy excuse to sooth their suffering. A person’s life is the sum of his or her actions, and everyone’s life is riddled with unexpected hardships. It’s how swiftly and effectively we resolve these hardships which defines our character. Are we a person who flaunts every problem to the world, or are we more reserved in our handling?
It really irritates me when I hear that “life sucks” from people who have no idea what true hardship is. At the end of the day, there’s someone out there who genuinely has it worse than you. For their sake, count your blessings and take it upon yourself to move on. Otherwise, continue at your current pace. One day, you’ll realize that no one is going to even spit at your problems, and the only person who can resolve them is the same person who should’ve been resolving them from the very beginning – you.
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Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
I just came across this post in my Google Reader… and even though it’s a bit old, I liked it so much that I had to stop by and say, “WELL SAID!”.
You’ve got some very sound wisdom, Doc.
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
Yo dude. Nice shpeel. I agree with you that there’s most likely someone who has it worse than people who complain about petty things. But, in my opinion, people who constantly complain about their life being so horrible usually do so because they don’t have much else to bring to the table .. They may just not be interesting enough of a person, or they may just be overdramatic and looking for attention .. They (probably) know their problems aren’t that bad.
I do disagree with you on the third paragraph though .. Being form Texas it’s only right that I support the death penalty .. In seriousness though, it’s more preventative and cost-effective. And although Ghandi said something like ‘if we all take an eye for an eye, we’ll all end up blind’, I’m still pro. BUT when you say that suicide if the easy way out and that it’s much more difficult to live thru the hardship .. I know you’re not discriminating against what religion the person may have, but i think you are assuming SOME religion (or spirituality at the least) .. for someone who believes that its just ashes to ashes after death, theres no apparent “weakness” in taking ones life (as is the case in say Catholicism). That person may be somewhat selfish since he/she may not consider the effects that he/she may have one others that care about him/her, but that’s something (and usually the key things that holds many back from going thru with suicide) that the self-killer has to weigh for him-/her-self.
Correct me if I’m wrong on any of what I just spewed out above.
All in all, I’d say I feel very slightly sorry for the “life sucks” people .. But not so much .. And not the least bit annoyed.
Chakde Fateh.
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
Is this in response to Paul’s comment on a recent Facebook status update of mine?
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
@Rizwana I do agree but there are people who you meet that are constantly complaining about their daily life. People who complaining often complain about minor things. People who are suffering deal with their problem differently. For example if someone close to you died you don’t complain constantly, instead you keep quiet for a while after that you bust out yelling and screaming.
Yes, I do agree having a good relationship does count for happiness if you meet the right person that you know you could share your most darkest secrets and stories with you will be happier since you go a chance to let out your sorrow and your anger and holding nothing back.
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
Hm…I’m indifferent towards this issue of “life sucks” because YES i agree that you should count your blessings, but i also am well aware it is human nature and part of our psyche to make a mountain out oa mole hill and focus on our issues and dwell on them rather than see how blessed we are. So I kind of understand people who do so. I think the only thing we can do, is instead of complaining which i see as a negative outcome, I think you should correct that person and help them see their blessings. Often in times of trouble, we only see one piece of the puzzle and not the big picture. Others who look from the outside may be able to see the whole picture. As humans we have two goals, I think
1.) Self Betterment and growing spiritually, emotionally, etc..
2.) Helping others to do so…
So yes, even if i dont know the person, I do give them a few words of wisdom and know from that point my duty is done.
I mean Rishi, or Fyfy..you two seem to be in serious relationships. Right now its one of the most important things in your lives. However God forbid that the situation arises where you break up do you think you will have your head on straight afterwards? I’m sure you will be devastated! And even if it is for a millisecond you will be depressed….
Stuff happens. Like you said what defines us is how we deal with it. However as humans being full of error is what we are good at! (Sadly) so just don’t be hesitant in giving someone advice if you see them “sad” or saying “life sucks”
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
AMEN to that. I am so tired of people complaining about their life. I do complain sometime but after that I count my blessings thing could always be worse.
@Rishi: I view death as a different aspect than many people. After all I did loose many close friends in my life. What I learn from death is that death make life more beautiful ad precious. My motto is death made life worth living. If we never die nothing we do seem vaulable. We will never take pictures or enjoy our family.
What I think is that when people set their goal so high and there always wanting more is what cause life to suck for them. Once you got a great job, you want a big house, you want a fancy car, a beautiful spouse, and on and on. Men are never satified they always wanting more. It is that way of thinking is what make man complain. I think people who complain should spend a day in third world country is they will truly see who blessed they are. I seen it and all I have to said is thank God I wa sborn in America.
One more thing Rishi people also complain because of jealousy. Some people are so jealous of other people fortunate that they constantly complaining that they are not that lucky. That should be your new topic JEALOUSY and all they trouble it bring.
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
I couldn’t agree more with this post. This is something I have been wanting to tell people that I have encountered in day to day life, I will be passing this on to those people for sure. We all need to take a look at the wonderful lives that we are blessed to have, and realize how fortunate we truly are. It also irritates me when those who proclaim “life sucks” are those who generally live well-off and cozy lives. Once again, great post!
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
I totally understand if people are “sad.” We’ve all been there for a multitude of reasons; however, what I don’t get is when people have the compulsive need to use their moment of depression as a way to assess which friends care the most. For example, if I had a blog post which said “LIFE SUCKS” but failed to elaborate why it sucks… what am I trying to prove? Maybe it’s just a personal thing, but if I’m depressed, I try to deal with it on my own without getting everyone involved.
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
Yeah I agree with your aforementioned comment 100%.