What Women Want vs. What Men Want
Published: 1 year, 8 months ago (Dec 7, 2008) in RandomTags: people · Print This Post · Leave a Comment
Okay, so this blog was basically written per the request of my readership. I’m not going to give any input except by providing comments. So let me know, when it comes down to qualities, both inside and out, what do both genders want?
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Published: 1 year, 8 months ago
For women, I would want someone who isn’t afraid to essentially “let me into her life”. Like I would want to get to know someone really well and find someone who would be as equally interested in getting to know me and the world that I live in. Looks to me aren’t the biggest thing at all, but they help to some extent. Basically, I’d want someone who benefits from me as well as someone who makes me feel great to wake up each day.
Now as to my friends, I like to hear back from them when I try to get in touch with them. *COUGH* Rishi *COUGH*. (Seriously, how are you doing man????? Why has it been like ages since I’ve heard from you????)
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I think that I’m in the minority, both physically and on this topic, because I don’t have a set of qualities that I would like my girl to have or not have. I think that, as a result, I’m very adaptable, and I think that leads to my… bad rep.
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@ Stephen Reilly: Hey Stephen! I’ll call you tomorrow. What time are you available? (For the sake of privacy, does your number still end with 6744)?
@ SANSHORYU: Hahaha, you don’t have a bad rep. Just consider yourself an individual who’s capable of providing a whole lotta lovin’
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Apart from the caring, understanding, intelligent, funny, etc…I think the biggest problem for Paki-Muslim girls is two things:
1.) Finding someone as religious…(Most Paki-Muslim guys go thru this clubbing, drinking, hooking up phase) So someone who hasn’t gone thru that phase…
2.) Someone who loves the people I love as much as me. And not that “trying” love..the natural kind. I would hate to end up with some Ray Romano who hates the in-laws (my fam.) Because I seriously think in my culture girls put up so much effort for his family, and often in the situations I’ve seen he doesn’t return the favor
Someone who is a true gentlemen..What I mean by this is, in my culture even the nicest guys have two huge drawbacks:
a.) They tend to have a bad temper and if they lose it, they might “accidentally” raise their hand at you
b.) They may define life by gender roles (and this isn’t just my culture, I believe alot of southerners do this..lol) He just has to be willing to clean and cook, and participate in such activities!
Honestly, as far as success or that “John Hopkins” letter Oscar speaks of, I don’t care about that. I just think he has to be educated and ambitious, and success will follow.
Oh. and a non-smoker…smoking is so repulsive! Eww…In fact, someone who doesn’t get tempted easily, but I guess that goes back to being religious…
And of course, I think this goes for all couples..MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE SAME BELIEFS ON THE “BIG” THINGS! Research has proved “opposites attract” for miniscule things, like you have a sweet tooth he/she doesn’t…but NOT on big things like when you want to have kids etc…
In fact, I encourage evryone to make a checklist. It saves your time from lust relationships.
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Lol Rishi you just keep posting stuff I’m interested in! Well, I think I’ll bring a different perspective… Southern white girl!
These are aside from the regulars… Intelligent, good morals, nice, etc…
1) A guy who really and truly doesn’t have a problem with a girl who has ambitions and is going to act on them. So many southern guys try to claim to be modern and have “no problem” with women wanting to work and be ambitious and have careers, but when it comes down to it… they think they should stay home with the kids and cook and clean. I really value a guy that holds women as their equal.
2) A guy who is funny! If you can make me laugh, I’ll love you. I think that this is what can really hold a relationship together, in the long-run.
3) A guy who can make accomodations. Ever girl has their own quirks and insecurities, and guys need to learn to accomodate them and make their girl feel comfortable. Now, some girls might not need this… but most do.
4) A guy who knows when to be serious… So many guys I know are SO caught up in the party scene and are so concerned with being “cool.” (I know a lot of guys in frats and party guys…) I can appreciate a guy who can say “no” to a party and will go study, if need be. I also appreciate a guy who knows when to take a break from studying and will let loose… Even when it might make a little more sense to go study. If that made any sense at all? I guess the right balance of knowing when to do the right thing.. but still having that risk factor is kind of endearing.
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I’m not going to list every quality I look for, but one which I feel is unique to me – I sought a girl who genuinely understands the value of money. This isn’t something which can be taught, and if anything, our materialistic society teaches us the exact opposite. Therefore, I find it fascinating when a girl can truly appreciate what she has rather than always making her “wants” her “needs.” Some girls are given a privileged upbringing, but they understand that and make the most of it. Others are given a privileged upbringing, but use that fact as some sort of leverage in making themselves feel “better” than another person. All conversations revolve around their new purses, clothing, shoes, etc. and they judge others by their possessions. If anything, guys label the latter case as “high maintenance” or “gold diggers.” Being someone who’s engrossed in finding new ways to make money, I find it attractive when girls have the same interest rather than focusing on what mainstream society says a person needs to own to be considered successful.
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@ Rizwana: You’re so right, Rizwana! The whole “opposites attract” thing is a big gimmick.
@ Kasey: Hahaha Kasey, of all people, you should know that laughter really is the best “medicine.” Now if I could only figure out how to neatly write that on a prescription…
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@ Kasey: Lemme take you out
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I respond after the final
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@ SANSHORYU:
Lol unfortunately, I have a boyfriend. But I think a lot of girls think like me!
But… I go to UT… a public university. So there are a lot of top ten percenters here. (I don’t know what it’s like where ya’ll go… but I’ll tell you what it’s like here!) Meaning… there are a lot of girls here getting there “MRS” degrees. Translation = they are getting the easiest degree possible while just having fun and dating guys majoring in business/engineering/premed (the ones that will make money)… Wait, did I say all that out loud? It’s the sad truth but it is just that… the truth. There are a lot of girls at universities who just want a husband, and one that is going to make a lot of money. And I know a lot of them… and some will admit it. My best friend at UT is majoring in Radio Television Film… She honestly admits that she has no intention whatsoever in going into anything in that area. She just finds it interesting. Isn’t that crazy?
(Now on the flip side to calm anyone who might get offended…. But then there are girls getting degrees that some might consider easy that truly have a passion for that field… I understand that so don’t yell at me. I’m not saying a science major is “better”. I’m saying getting a degree for the sake of working in that field is better than going to college for the sake of finding a husband.)
Rishi… I wish I never found this site. I’m never going to get any studying done. Please tell me that you usually don’t post such interesting topics of discussion
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@ Kasey: Hahahaha, oh gosh Kasey. You’ll be fine! As far as interesting topics go, I enjoy discussing controversial topics and getting feedback from all of you. It’s informative.
Just to extend what you said… I was looking at some Facebook groups the other day, and it’s disturbing how many people already plan to “Marry A Doctor” so they don’t “need a real job.” Lol, it’s bad enough for male doctors to find out that someone’s a gold digger, but if they’re going to basically profess this ahead of time, the girls are either a.) ignorant or b.) think that their good looks will still entice doctors. Thank you for being a testament to what females should strive to attain! Go write a book, get it published, and educate your friends. 
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Well thas why I opt to stay single… Gold diggers scare the $h!7 out of me
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That’s why I chose medicine! Good looks still entice me!
Sanshoryu, you are a creeper!
ahem..Nick Yee
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@ Kasey: Oh, my God. You just described me! I was going to invite you to a club on 6th Street or watch the Notebook DVD, but you already have a BF.
And Science and English majors rock! Rishi and I will delve into the frontal lobe someday. Only, he is going to be cutting. I am gonna just prescribe and look at MRI’s. UT Austin rocks, but you are correct, people go for the easy degrees…such a turn-off. Ambition is my best friend. Power is my second best friend. Respect is third. Good luck in pharmacy.
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You and Sanshoryu are both creepers..
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@ UTchick:
*sigh* I’d agree, if I was actually serious about it. Who is UTchick anyway?
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@ SANSHORYU: Lol, J-Tran… at least that’s his rapper name.
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@ Oscar:
you’re gonna be a doctor too? good grief… doctors everywhere surrounding rishi… shoulda known hah. ill say the same thing to you i said to him…
I WANT GOOD HANDWRITING ON ANY PRESCRIPTIONS I GET FROM YOU GUYS! and nothing thats gonna make anyones red blood cells explode
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGip7x-sIuo (dont watch it all, youll get bored… about 30 seconds and youll get the jist. she starts singing after about 2 minutes)
after further viewing of that video i realize it puts doctors in a bad light and pharmacists as these superior beings… its all in good fun lol
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@ kasey: Ahahaha, Kasey, I would have even more “respect” for you if I saw you do this in a hospital pharmacy.
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is that not the most ridiculous thing ever? i havent worked in a hospital pharmacy yet, i’m hoping to get a job in one this summer… so i’ll let you kno if thats how they really are. baby powder, STAT!
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Be on the watch for doctors who continuously ask for Vicodin refills. They should be reported – double stat!
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@ Rishi: Yes, I’m pretty free all afternoon and evening as I’ll just be studying for finals like a normal 20 year old…
. And my number is still the same as it was the last time I visited Katy. Looking forward to hearing from you!
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New Topic: List your HBU crushes and reasons
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That’s a no no for me. If I was one of those “crushes”, and I was listed by an anonymous commenter, that could be loosely interpreted as stalking. Sorry!
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What women what?
1) Good look I would be lying if I say look does not matter to women. Look is what what make us give you a gentle gesture like a wave or a simle and a single hello. Come on ladies let admit it, we are more likely to go up in talk to someone like Brad pitt than some one like Ray Ramano from “everybody love raymond.
2) Body: Yes women like for their men to have a good body. You don’t have to have a six pack or great arm, leg, and butt like Christian Bale in Batman just stay fit. It is disgusing for us to see roles under your skin, just like it is disgusting for you to see role under our skins. Not only is it good for us it is also good for your health later on. So don’t drink too much, we don’t like beer bellies.
3) Money. No we are not gold diggers like Anna Nicole Smith. If you don’t have enough to support yourself how do you expect to support us or your family assuming that most guy want a wife. Money is good when it come to paying rents, bills, and everybody (both men and women) appreciate finer things.
4) Intelligent: Rishi and Oscar you have this. Intelligent is very important because not only will it guarantee you a good job, but it is important for conversation purposes to impress our parents.
THE GRAND FINALE
5) PERSONALITY. This is what make us go crazy and head over heels in love with you once we get to know you. It sometime more important than all the other factor come together. We like men who are funny, caring, generous, and forgiving us of our mistake (we ar enot perfect). Most of all a guy in which we a reveal our greatest embarrassment to.
I think I nailed right there what your ladies opinion. Am I missing anything
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@ Rishi: I steal my parents Vicodin stash! They make me feel like Superman and take away any pain! lol. And my pupils dilate as if I had talen Belladonna, causing cycloplegia. It looks cool.
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@ Oscar: DOn do not. It can lead to blindness.
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hey guys, Rishi, this is Ruben from HBU. I like to look at hot women all day long, but i like to talk to funny, nice, and intelligent girl all day long. If I could breed both kinds together, I would have the ultimate women, but there would be a higher chance of getting her stolen from me. So I will probably opt for an ugly girl that can cook