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We often hear people speaking about the powerful, non-verbal communication inherent to body language. A person’s preoccupation with their hands, face, and other body parts during conversation reveals a lot about what he or she is really thinking. Now let me talk about a specific application of body language – courtship.

If two shy people with an underlying interest in each other have a “conversation”, their body languages may appear radically different than two individuals having an otherwise casual discussion. Perhaps the girl will attempt a world record for the fastest eye-fluttering and the guy will flex all ten of his muscles (maybe eleven for an added effect). Sure, this is good and all, but why do some people (both guys and girls) think that every non-verbal action by the opposite gender is a signal of affection?

I’m fortunate to have only come across a handful of people who think they’re God’s gift to mankind. The funny thing, at least for me, is how sadly mistaken these people are. When Girl A thinks that Guy A, Guy B, and Guy C are all into her based on the content of their communication (verbal and nonverbal), in reality, the three guys are secretly just trying to be nice to her because they feel bad for her. It’s a funny thing… lying to ourselves.

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